God said: Follow my instructions and you will surely have a good marriage.
I thought I would be good at following God's instructions until I began to feel like I was being mistreated. I totally forgot his instructions and began to handle things my own way. His instructions were simply put, but hard to carry out. I lifted my voice at my husband and yelled out every insulting word that I could think of. He yelled back: "GO AHEAD! GET IT ALL OUT, ANGRY WOMAN!" Getting even angrier, I began to shed tears and rage told me to hit him with something. Just as I was about to do it, my arm got stuck. It was as if God grabbed my arm and warned that if I do it, I would regret it. I put the object down and sat down in the chair feeling overwhelmed. My head was pounding, and my chest felt like bricks were laid on it. My husband sat beside me and tried talking to me, but I could not hear him because rage was still infiltrating my body. I felt right in what I had done because I was provoked to it. He deserved it, as he could never have a sensible conversation without finding a way to debate it. I hated debates as I was never trying to prove right, just trying to give the wisdom that God provided me. However, he never saw it that way, so I'd blow up. But God chastised me with a word of WISDOM:
PROVERBS 21:9, IT'S BETTER TO LIVE IN A CORNER OF A ROOF THAN IN A HOUSE SHARED WITH A CONTENTIOUS WOMAN.
My heart was broken at the statement from God. How could he be on my husband side? He provoked me to anger. I thought, but I did not have to engage in the manner I had engaged. Totally disrespectful and out of character. My husband would have been chastised had I followed the instructions of God, which were:
1 PETER 3:1 -2, LIKEWISE, WIVES BE SUBJECT TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS, SO THAT EVEN IF THEY DON'T OBEY THE WORD, THEY MAY BE WON WITHOUT A WORD BY THE CONDUCT OF THEIR WIVES, WHEN THEY SEE Y OUR RESPECTFUL AND PURE CONDUCT.
My behavior ripped my husband apart and his behavior ripped me apart, but God desired that I take it and not act out of his character. How relentless was that? I thought. But, when I kneeled down to pray to talk to God, he showed me visions of my error that hurt me as bad as I hurt myself and my husband. If I had just kept my mouth shut, and gave that anger to God, he would have calmed me and chastised my husband. My husband then would have been responsible for apologizing and affirming me. It would have been totally wrong to get the joy out of his chastisement and to make him feel even worse for apologizing and affirming. It would have been in my best interest to receive him and continue living before him as a woman of God. I learned my lesson that day and never returned to being that angry woman. ONLY THE INSTRUCTIONS OF GOD KEPT MY MARRIAGE TODAY!
DO YOURSELVES A FAVOR WIVES, STOP TRYING TO BE THE LEADER WHEN GOD HAS MADE YOU THE FOLLOWER OF YOUR HUSBAND. IT MAY BE PAINFUL TO TAKE MESS FROM YOUR HUSBAND, BUT TRUST GOD TO GIVE INSTRUCTIONS AND FOLLOW THEM. IT WORKS!
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